My Love Language Is Safety
- Binta Alleyene-Green
- May 23
- 1 min read
My love language is safety.
Not just flowers or words.
But being able to breathe.
To speak without being shut down.
To cry without being mocked.
To rest without walking on eggshells.
Safety is:
Emotional honesty, not manipulation.
Raised voices only in laughter, not rage.
Being held, not handled.
Disagreements without destruction.
Love without safety isn’t love—it’s survival.
So no, I don’t care how much you say you love me.
If I don’t feel safe with you, it’s not love I’m receiving.
It’s performance.
It’s confusion.
It’s harm dressed as affection.
Because safety is my love language.
And it speaks louder than anything else.
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